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The Landmark Forum- August 12 to 16, 2016, Bangalore:
Yesterday was my first day at the Forum Coaching conducted by Praveen Puri from Delhi. He had done Forum after 14 years of marriage and was now one of the 54 Forum leaders who conduct the coaching world over.
Below is my Day-1: Assignment
1. Look back through your life to discover for yourself your "rackets"
Well, I am not at liberty to use the names of the persons attending the Forum to maintain confidentiality. However, let me just use the first letter of the persons for the flow in my blog. Yesterday night, we were handed out a leaflet defining what a racket is and by the end of the session, the audience were in no doubt who were the racketeers. Ms.M sitting beside me was the most amazing person I had met because she helped me discover the subtle things I had missed in my racket.
Basically, my racket involved in the complaint that my wife called me a "Momma's boy". The payoffs I got from this racket was that I used to dominate my wife by justifying myself that I am loving her in a hurting way.
2. Share authentically with someone in your life a possibility that you have invented out of participating in the Landmark Forum in a way that leaves them touched, moved, or inspired by your having gotten that possibility.
I really shared. Though no touching was involved, the words she spoke did not leave any doubt in my mind whether she was moved or inspired, when she said "Did you have to attend the Landmark Forum to know that you had hurt me?"
3. Write a letter to someone you have been inauthentic with or have been running a racket on. Share with them the possibility you have invented authentically. Be willing to acknowledge having been inauthentic and the impact that has had in your life.
Dear so and so,
>/b> What I came to The Landmark Forum to accomplish is to gain some insights into leadership skills to get elevated in the corporate ladder.
What I am actually accomplishing is that I am thinking about all the BS (short for bullsh!t)that I have surrounded myself to alienate me from my loved ones, that is you. I am willing to give up the past behind me to embrace a new world.
The possibility that I have invented for myself and my life is the possibility of being truthful in my relationships and reminding myself about all the stories that the mind can think up of over nothing that has actually happened.
Your genuine words today opened my inner eyes to the huge possibilities of attaining peace and tranquil. I will acknowledge your concerns and actually behave gentlemanly.
Request you to please remind me if any sidestep any genuine concerns.
I extend my heartfelt invitation to you to be able to accompany me to attend the last day session of The Landmark Forum on Tuesday August 16, 2016.
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